How The Adigi Approach Began
Joyce’s eyes are red and puffy. Her skin is blotchy, her cry is coming from a place so deep it’s almost scary and she has to stop every five seconds to blow her nose. She’s talking about her son’s depression. She’s confessing that over the last year she’s been so overwhelmed with her own broken heart that she hasn’t had the energy to take care of his. Now that she no longer feels paralyzed by the shocking events that shattered her marriage, she wants to help her son – but she’s not quite sure what to do. She thinks she’d be happier if her husband had never left her.
We talk. I bring her back to the truth that life is unfolding perfectly, whether or not she thinks it is and eventually she breathes a sigh of relief. We each sit back in our chairs, quiet for a moment. Then it’s my turn. The red and puffy eyes, the blotchy skin and tear-stained cheeks now belong to me. I’m allowing myself to experience the hurt and disappointment I feel from a friendship gone sour and a business dream that evaporated right alongside it. I invested my heart, my soul and my entire line of credit in vows that proved to be as strong a certain little piggy’s straw house. I’m convinced I would be so much happier if things hadn’t turned out as they had. A few encouraging words from Joyce and some helpful spiritual reminders and I am feeling peaceful and centered - whole and unbroken once again.
This back and forth role of dispirited friend and spiritual coach is one we’ve become familiar with. Ever since meeting, our spiritual momentum has propelled us much further than anywhere we would have gone on our own. Time and time again, we’ve helped each other through one problem after another, always evolving spiritually as a result.
But on this evening something is different. We prayed for help, as we always do, but this time it feels like the spiritual help we’re receiving is almost tangible – as if inspiration is a wise man sitting in the room right alongside us, guiding us to our most life-changing AH HA moment yet. After the tears have subsided and we sit staring at the Kleenex ruins, a thought enters our mind. It isn’t a new thought but it’s a thought that by the end of the evening magically inspires a process of inquiry that will prove to become our life’s mission and our soul’s calling.
What if there was one solution we could apply to ALL our problems?
What if we didn’t have to learn how to apply one spiritual or self-help principle after another? What if we could drop the 500 steps to happiness that we’ve carried with us over the years and carry only one method…one idea…one simple approach that can be used over and over again no matter what problem we bring to it?
The idea made us feel giddy. The energy in the room became electric. We allowed ourselves to be carried along the river of inspiration a little further and as we did 4 questions came to our minds. Technically, they weren’t really questions. More like 4 sentences to contemplate. When you followed each sentence one after the other, they seemed to work together to twist the mind in such a way as to unravel the ego and dissolve the “problem” almost instantaneously.
We each went through the questions with one personal issue after another and watched as our problems melted away to nothing. The heavy emotions, pain and confusion that naturally came with them disappeared too. We were flabbergasted. We decided to commit to this new approach and use the questions whenever we found ourselves stuck in a problem.
After two years of applying the new approach, no matter what, under all circumstances, in good times and in bad, whether we wanted to or not, the results speak for themselves. To the untrained eye it may seem like nothing has changed. But internally everything has shifted. We are no longer trapped in the never-ending cycle of dealing with one problem after another, perpetually trying to fix one area of our life after another, all the while, mistakenly believing that one day we will have fixed ourselves, our homes, our bodies, our relationships and our finances to the point where everything is finally as we’ve always wanted it to be and now we can sit back and enjoy our ideal life.
We’ve witnessed what true sanity looks like – and it is delicious. 100% of the time, without fail, when we diligently apply our approach, we are at peace with the way things are, we feel satisfied, fulfilled, in need of nothing, complete, whole, in other words, happy.
We couldn’t keep the approach and the 4 statements that came to us that night a secret any longer. We decided to call the process The Adigi Approach (Ah’dee’gee) and we started to coach people through the questions. Whether they came to us with relationship problems, body image issues, weight problems, money problems, addictions or any other experience of disharmony, the questions worked without fail and the one solution could be applied to each and everyone’s problem without exception. Sometimes it was a process that took time and commitment and sometimes the changes were instantaneous. But in all cases the approach was simple; one step, one choice, one decision to make over and over again.
Joyce and I have to admit that we’ve become somewhat curious. Will the results remain so strong, even if we take a greater number of people through the process? We’re excited to see whether or not they will but we’ll need your help to prove it. If you feel inspired to learn more about The Adigi Approach, contact us and we will take you through the process and you too will have the opportunity to experience the benefits of this simple approach.
